We can’t pretend that everybody has good friends.
In fact, a lot of people don’t know what that is anymore. We’ve gotten used to “smile and wave” relationships. Those types people have in church these days, where you hug people on Sunday morning, blow kisses in the air, speak some christianese and call it a day.
We check up on our friends IG stories and Facebook status to see how they are doing.
Let’s be honest.
These shallow “smile and wave” relationships don’t cut it. They’re not real, they’re not warm and they’re not deep. They even make us feel more lonely than anything.
God created us with the need and ability to share our lives with others.
We need real friends. People we can be ourselves with. No filters. No fear of offense because they understand that we mean well and quickly give the benefit of doubt.
The ones who don’t only remember you when they need something
The ones who tell you what you need to hear even if it’s not always what you want to hear
The ones who know how to make you feel bad and good at the same time 🙂
The ones who have your back…but at the same time don’t hesitate to hold you to high standards.
Heartfelt friendships are becoming so scarce, we’re almost forgetting what they are.
See, I know that not that everyone has good friends. Some people are not even interested in being your real friends. They’re only in your life to feel good about themselves. But that’s okay. We just have to get used to the fact that it’s not everyone that wants to be real or deep.
So, what do you do if people don’t want to be ‘real’ friends with you?
You, be a real friend.
Yes, it can be pretty difficult to seek out and cultivate friendships, especially in our adult lives. It takes time and commitment, but it is soooo worth it because good friends are a real treasure. I’m blessed to have good friends in my life and can’t think how my life would be if they’re not in it.
I’m sure that everyone can be a good friend.
There are a few things on earth that are more precious than friendship and in our Bible Study on Instagram Live (It’s every other Thursday, 8pm), I shared tips on how to be a good friend. I can’t repeat all here, but I’ll leave you with a very big tip:
Pray for your Friends
You can’t be at every event, you can’t spend the entire weekend on the phone, but you can pray.
In my kitchen, I have a Magnetic Board that has sticky notes with the names of all my friends. I pray for them everyday – obviously I won’t forget, because I enter my kitchen everyday. Now, these friends are all over the world, but my prayers reach them.
As you pray for them, you’ll feel closer to them, more connected and your friendships will be deeper. You’ll find yourself checking up on them more often and your heart will be filled with so much love that is visibly radiant when y’all get together. I can’t even explain it enough, but you should try it.
To help you get started, I put together a list of prayers you can say for your friends. Click the button below to get it, and you’ll be super glad you did.
Friendship is one of the tools God uses to sanctify us, to allow us to experience more of Him so we can grow, learn from others, and learn to live in respect, care, and love.
Here are 7 prayers for your friends (and I secretly can’t help but hope that someone will pray them over me too!)